Golden Lucy's Spiral Journal

Going on 87...Savoring and Surviving the Senior Years

Monday, July 17, 2006

If It Feels Good...

I've been pretty vain most of my adult life. Before that I was acutely and embarrassingly aware of my exceptional unattractiveness. Now I consider both attitudes a big waste of time---and when I think about it, two sides of the same coin: vanity and self-absorption. I've decided to get over it. I think it's working. It's very comfortable not to give a damn about that stuff---and easy, when I realize no one else does either---and probably never did.

Yes indeedy. I mention this because I've been deciding what to wear for Ben and Teresa's wedding next week. But for once I'm not depressed. I finally realize I'll never look as terrific as I think I could but also not as ghastly as I'm afraid I might. Now this girl just wants to have fun.

I'm concentrating on the perks of getting really old. Lord knows there are many frightening uncertainties about aging, However, I'm tired of thinking and talking about them. Today I want to concentrate on and appreciate the freedom I feel. Let's face it, tomorrow I might be much more pressed by the uncertainties.


So today I am deciding I may not wear pantihose under my dress. I may even decide to take my eye pencil and draw a seam down the back of my legs like we did in the '40s. Or wear a garter belt---but never a girdle! The thing is, whatever I decide, and possibly actually do will be just because it makes me feel happy. I'll bet I'll still end up looking pretty cute for a really old broad.

And that's not vanity talking.

30 Comments:

  • At 3:07 AM, Blogger Miss Cellania said…

    Thats the spirit! Anyone you meet at the wedding is going to be impressed by you, no matter what you wear. And those who know you a;ready will be impressed, too!

    But HOW in the world can you draw a straight line down the back of your own leg? I can't even get the spray tan to go on straight!

     
  • At 6:43 AM, Anonymous Terri said…

    Some people live their entire life and never "get" the message you sent in your post today, Lucy.
    While we all want to look good in public...call it vain, or not...hopefully it reaches a point where we realize we're pretty damn good as a person.
    And beauty like this...it must always come from within.
    I'd say YOU will be the belle of the ball.....opps! make that "wedding."

     
  • At 7:08 AM, Blogger Joy Des Jardins said…

    Pretty cute? I think you'll look a lot more than pretty cute Lucy...strikingly adorable, I'd say....maybe even fetching. (Does anyone even use that word anymore?) I love your attitude sweet lady. I subscribe to it too...bless your sweet heart; and have the best time of your life at that wedding. Can't wait to hear all about it. I know we won't be disappointed.

     
  • At 7:12 AM, Blogger goldenlucyd said…

    Lovely Miss C and my dear Terri:
    Your comments were better than my post---both of you are so kind and wise. Thanks.
    Also Miss C, I have to 'fess up. Although lots of girls actually drew the seams of "nylons"---not available during most of WWII--on the back of their legs, I wasn't one of them. I was still too fat to bend down that far.

     
  • At 7:17 AM, Blogger goldenlucyd said…

    Joy, your comment beat my compliments to Miss C and Terri. Naturally you're included. So is everybody else who says sweet things about me here. Otherwise I'll be doing this all day long! I love you all.

     
  • At 9:34 AM, Blogger saz said…

    You're darn tootn' you look good! I love the idea of drawing a seam line down the back of your leg. Lucy - you'll look great no matter what you wear but boy am I waiting for the pics to show up on your blog.

     
  • At 10:09 AM, Blogger Lorraine said…

    Well of course you will look good, is there any doubt? Be sure to draw a seam on each leg (not just one) or people will notice something's wrong there.

    Don't know about you, but I always had a helk of a time keeping those seams straight, until I discovered one day it was my LEGS that were crooked.

    Did you celebrate the end of WWII by kissing a sailor or rejoicing that nylon stockings would be back and we could throw those ugly rayon ones away?

    Actually, I did both of those things. You will look smashingly gorgeous LucyD...take lots of pictures!!

     
  • At 10:57 AM, Anonymous naomi said…

    hilarious, lucy. got me distracted from the news (awful), the weather (of course), and my own angst about what to wear tonight. yes, give us pictures of you at the wedding.

     
  • At 11:48 AM, Blogger Rain said…

    I stopped wearing panty hose years ago and it's definitely freeing. Forget the line down the back of the leg too lol What I do is use one of those moisturizers that give you some tan. My legs look darker, nobody can tell if it is pantyhose or not unless they got too close and nobody should be looking that close. I used to get the color by suntanning until they convinced me it wrinkled my skin and gave me skin cancer... I never really liked taking time to lie in the sun anyway; so not much of a loss.

    have fun at the wedding. It sounds like you have the right idea for how to do it. I will look forward to the pictures

     
  • At 11:58 AM, Blogger Ginnie said…

    What a wonderful blog. Isn't it freeing to get older? I love it. I've found that all those things that society said were critical to our existense are just "stuff", blocking the really important things in life, like love and laughter and compassion for our fellow travelers.
    I wasn't quite old enough to draw lines on the back of my legs...but I can surely remember helping my older sisters do so...and what a mess it was.
    You will sail into that wedding on the wings of your personality alone!!

     
  • At 1:13 PM, Blogger kenju said…

    You sure will look cute, Lucy, because you are!!

    I really laughed at your comment at my place about wrinkles and getting the sand out. I don't worry about the wrinkles, it's the nooks and crannies that bother me!!

     
  • At 1:38 PM, Anonymous Maria said…

    Lucy,
    I have found the best perk of being old. It is flirting with the young handsome interns at UCLA. I can compliment and kid and connive and get away with much more than I could at say age 40 or 50.

     
  • At 7:23 PM, Anonymous Janice said…

    Amen, Sistah! We all relate...a young woman is a very powerful thing -- but most of us never had a clue until we no longer had the power of youth. But how invigorating the freedom and contentment that comes with a bit of mellowing. And I think the spirit of a contented, self-confident woman is radiant whether she's 50 or 90! You go girl!

     
  • At 11:34 PM, Blogger Roberta said…

    Lucy, too bad young people don't realize that the best beauty creme is an upbeat attitude and the charisma that comes along with it. I used to dress for style but now I only dress for comfort in a color I like. Being comfortable, I have found, keeps me smiling and without the distractions of itchy legs, pinched toes, or tight waist bands, I find I can thoroughly enjoy every minute of socializing even when my initial thought was dire skepticism about having a good time.

    Of course you're going to look ravishing draped in your usual good-humor and sparkling charisma.

     
  • At 11:56 PM, Anonymous auntietob said…

    Granny-Lu... just so you and all you readers know- "I" know that -its true-no matter what you wear on the outside- its always your beautiful inside that shines thru..your charm & good nature can outdress the best of 'em..that said- since I am supposed to take you "dress" shopping for the wedding- lets go to lunch instead.!

     
  • At 8:39 AM, Anonymous claude said…

    Yeah Lucy! Way to go!!!! I love it! I love the cartoon, too, makes me think of Chancy's post! ;)

     
  • At 12:17 PM, Anonymous Alan G said…

    Well, I heard you had a great cartoon posted Lucy so here I am with my first visit.

    I saw the picture at the top of the page but where is the cartoon?

    Just kidding...Just kidding! :)

    Can't comment on the rest. Have no real experience with drawing lines down the back of my legs or panty hose. Certainly enjoyed the visit and humor so expect me again. By the way - I don't take sugar in my coffee. :)

     
  • At 1:28 PM, Blogger Jamie Dawn said…

    I'm certain you'll look MAHHHvelous, darlink!

    You might consider wearing a see-through blouse and go braless. :)

    That cartoon is a riot!

     
  • At 6:30 PM, Blogger Chancy said…

    You come up with the most interesting posts. I especially like this one. And the cartoon I love it.

    Lucy, You will be the cutest one at the wedding other than the bride

    Hugs Chancy

     
  • At 6:38 PM, Blogger GUYK said…

    Miss Lucy, you would knock 'em dead if you went in your houseshoes and barefooted. I suspect that with that bubbling personality you have no one would look to see if you were even wearing clothes..except for may a couple of horny old men and they are thinking about a lot more than they can do.

    But see, that is one of the things I like about getting old in Florida..we just wear whatever we want wherever we want and nobody gives a damn and if they do we hit them with our cane.

     
  • At 8:59 PM, Blogger OldOldLady Of The Hills said…

    Oh I understand Lucy...For all of my life I have mostly been unhappy or uncomfortable with how I look when I look in the mirror...(I'm still not happy with it, but...like you, attempting to make peace with how my body looks right now....) The thing I discovered during that two and a half weeks when I was posting photo's of myself throughout my life before my Big Birthday? What I was shocked to realize was--I was a lot prettier than I EVER thought was, and I wished I could have known that then, and enjoyed it! ALL this is by way of saying, I hope you just enjoy every moment of yourself right now and wear and do whatever you want cause I really believe it is better to let go of all that stuff than to be the victim of it, you know? I do think I came to the realization that I needed to be comfortable in whatever I wore when I was about 40! Since that time, I always dress in what pleases me and gives me comfort and it works! Throw away that garter belt my dear...Free at last, Free at last...and you know the rest! I know that whatever you do dear Lucy, it will be perfect, because YOU are perfect...(I love the idea of drawing those lines down the back of your legs...LOL)

     
  • At 10:06 PM, Blogger Bev Sykes said…

    Hey--not only will you look wonderful, whether you think you do or not, but you'll probably be the only one there who is actually COMFORTABLE and can enjoy the party! You go, girl!

     
  • At 1:35 AM, Blogger goldenlucyd said…

    I aim to be the only woman in the place not holding in my stomach.

     
  • At 10:34 PM, Blogger Sky said…

    lucy, i wish you lived near me. i would enjoy you so much!

    have a great time. your mission is simply to try NOT to be more beautiful than the bride. ;)

     
  • At 11:28 PM, Blogger Lee-ann said…

    Lucy hello from Auustalia.

    I think never a truer word has ever been spoken good on you. :o)

    Your blog is just lovely and I will enjoy each moment I come back to say hello.

    It is so nice to travel around the world this way for just a moment to see what others think and I think you say volumes! and all of it very nice.

    best wishes to you.

     
  • At 5:29 PM, Blogger Suzann said…

    My darling Lucyd - you are so right about being the only woman not holding their stomach in --- LOL - the most important thing is that we love and take care of ourselves without that it is tough to love and care for others. Have fun at the wedding - we are all excited to see the pictures you will bring back to share with us. Take care. S.

     
  • At 1:15 PM, Blogger Jamie Dawn said…

    I hope you have a nice weekend.

    I came back by and enjoyed that cartoon AGAIN.

     
  • At 8:55 AM, Blogger Sonia said…

    I just found you through your comment on Naomi and I love what I reading here! You have a great and witty text! I am 63 and I am concern with this issue also.
    Have a good Sunday!

     
  • At 3:51 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Bullshit you as most women in today's society are to lazy to look good. You all use the excuse its' uncomfortable; its hot; you go around in pantyhose and heels. Pure crap. My mother and grandmother would role over in their graves if they saw what passes for a woman today. Men wear ties. no doubt they are uncomfortable.....going without stockings girls but sorry most us do not have 20 year old leags and even 20's do not. You are all lazy and mark these words..men will go to real women who take the time and yes pain to look feminine. Oh I am sorry that's right most of you who think this way do not care about men either!

     
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