Golden Lucy's Spiral Journal

Going on 87...Savoring and Surviving the Senior Years

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Hearts and Hands

So. I was right and she was right. The Lovely Teresa's bridal shower was a rousing and delightful success!

Of course I was fretting and pouting up to the last moment. Why? I don't know. Everything had been done: flowers, decorations, catering : check, check, check. Yet I found kvetching curiously soothing. Is that just me?

In any case, all the fussing was forgotten when I walked through the door of our clubhouse where Carole ceremoniously presented me with a red rose corsage. Teresa's Nana and I were seated in places of honor. Yes, chairs.

Actually, everybody attending had access to a chair. (I was so proud of Carole!) However, our guests seemed to prefer milling around and mingling. We all laughed, chatted and enjoyed each other's company.

Then Teresa opened her presents. As I watched her I thought about my own marriage. My husband Ben and I were from the Depression era. Our families had no money for presents or showers or even weddings. But one thought sticks in my memory.

It was 1942. Ben, like most young men in those days, was in the army. We decided that I would join him at his station in Louisiana and get married there. I was working for a mens' hosiery company in Cinncinnati at that time. When I told him I was leaving to get married my boss gave me $25.00 for a present. Boy! I thought that was really something!

But what to do with such riches? After a good deal of thought I determined to do something I'd never done before. Get a manicure. I imagined how nice my hands would look when Ben slipped the ring (I hoped he'd managed to get one) on my finger. It made me happier than anything I could think of.

As I recall, the manicure took a good part of my twenty-five dollars. But oh, it was worth it! As I sat in the rolling, rocking train I listened to the Navy men strolling up and down the aisle singing, "Praise the Lord and Pass the Ammunition." And I gazed at my beautiful hands and smiled and smiled.


  • At 9:10 AM, Blogger PrimoDonna said…

    Hi, Lucy. I discovered your blog a couple of weeks ago. I like it! I especially like this post because of your memories. My parents were married in 1945 after my dad returned from Europe. Also, thanks for your great sense of humor!

  • At 9:47 AM, Blogger Chancy said…

    Haven't I always said that Lucy has her priorities in fine order....

    Hyacinths to Feed Thy Soul

    If of thy mortal goods thou art bereft,
    And from thy slender store two loaves alone to thee are left,
    Sell one, and with the dole
    Buy hyacinths to feed thy soul.

    -- Gulistan of Moslih Eddin Saadi

  • At 9:51 AM, Blogger Jamie Dawn said…

    What a sweet story. I'm sure he loved your hands and every other part of you. Uh, I'm talking about Ben, not your boss. :)

    What a lovely picture of two lovely ladies.
    I'm so glad the event turned out nicely. AND, there were enough chairs! Imagine that!!

  • At 10:17 AM, Blogger goldenlucyd said…

    Primodonna: So glad you came by. Thanks for the kind words and I hope you keep coming back:)

    Chancy: What a wonderful poem! Where do you keep coming up with these things? I had never heard of this poet but will certainly look him up now. Hope everything is peachy in GA!

    JD: Yes, he did. And probably my boss too. But for 25 bucks I won't take offense! And yes, it's a fact: me 'n TLT are pretty darn cute. Gracias.

  • At 11:45 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    See, there was nothing to worry about. You have to worry, because it's so good when it stops, is that it? ;)
    I love it when you tell us stories about the past. Incidentally, did Ben manage to secure a ring?
    What a year to get married! Loved your last paragraph. Almost heard the tchoo tchoo train and the Navy men!

  • At 11:46 AM, Anonymous Claude said…

    The anonymous user was me, I hit return unwillingly!

  • At 1:41 PM, Blogger Chantel said…

    Thanks for the lovely story. I'm glad that the shower went well.

  • At 2:06 PM, Anonymous joared said…

    Loved your story, Lucyd! I, too, enjoy the stories you share.

    I remember only too well the lean days, but the unparalled riches during those times.

    Oh, those Navy men ... I was totally enamoured with them, my older brother was one, and a cousin was a Wave, wow, considered that as a career goal for myself for a time.

    When I think about the quiet influence of women during those years as role models, they expanded the opportunities for the increasingly vocal 50's, then 60's groups; just hope that's not marginalized in the telling of history.

    Glad the shower was a success. What's a shower without chairs, whether or not they're used! :-) Have been to many over the years, of all kinds, and continue to do so, but a variety of circumstances resulted in my never having one of my own of any kind.

    Cincinnati? Are you a former Buckeye, too?

    So many favorite WWII songs come to mind, including the one you mentioned. One I loved was "White Cliffs of Dover" which probably had greater popularity in Great Britain, but for some reason really stirred my emotions, still does.

  • At 3:08 PM, Blogger bunnygirl said…

    Okay, now you've only tantalized us. Was there a ring for you, or did it come later? How did your wedding turn out? Did Ben get shipped out soon after, or did he get to stay stateside for awhile?

    You really should not tease your readers like this!

    You and Teresa both look lovely, by the way!

  • At 3:34 PM, Blogger GUYK said…

    1942 was a good year me..I reckon it was though I don't remember but that was the year I was born.

  • At 3:39 PM, Blogger kenju said…

    Lucy, I sure hope you got a beautiful ring, since you went to the trouble and expense of a manicure. That sure was a nice gift back then!

  • At 3:41 PM, Blogger goldenlucyd said…

    Always good to hear from you. Keep on keeping on!

    Ditto for hearing from you---a pleasure and privilege. Check your email. I don't want to bore everybody with Buckeye stories!

    And of course I it's always a joy to hear from you and The Bun. I didn't think about it before you folks mentioned it but I guess I could get some mileage out of the '40s. I'm so old things from long ago are starting to feel more real all the time!

  • At 3:50 PM, Blogger goldenlucyd said…

    Kenju and Guy:
    How'd you two sneak up there? I missed your comments! Guy, I'd be interested in hearing about whether your Pap had to go off to war---there weren't a lot of babies born until '46...that's when we had Jack.

    Amazing what $25. would buy back in the day!

  • At 5:27 PM, Blogger Mike ( ex scientia, veritas ) said…

    What a wondeful story and memory! That's a great picture, too. I'm still laughing at my friend Jamie Dawns first comment. :)

  • At 6:41 PM, Anonymous Janice said…

    I knew Carole would come through and you were worrying about nothing! What a great picture of you two.

    What a nice memory...if you'd spent that $25 on a toaster oven you would never have remembered it! Good for you, Ms. Lucy.

  • At 8:11 PM, Blogger Joy Des Jardins said…

    These things usually have a way of working out Lucy. I'm so glad everything turned out so beautifully. I love the story about you and wonderful and warm. BTW...what a great picture of you and Teresa. Apparently anxiety works for look lovely. -Joy

  • At 6:47 AM, Anonymous Terri said…

    Oh, Lucy, you look positively stunning! Are you sure you're not lying to us about your age?
    And the bride-to-be....she's both beautiful and glowing.
    I loved your story about your own memories and that manicure. Thanks for sharing it with us. And I'm glad (but not surprised) that the bridal shower was such a success. All the best to all of you.

  • At 7:25 AM, Anonymous Lucy said…

    My dear you wear your age well.. you do look fabulous. I love visiting your blog.. you are a breath of fresh air and your stories are priceless. I too would like to know about the ring someday.

    Hey my mother worked in a hoisery department of a store --- ladies hoisery. She told me once that she had a few pair of hoisery that did not run..seems like it was during the war. Was i dreaming that???

  • At 8:05 AM, Anonymous Simply Coll said…

    Both you and Teresa look so very lovely in the photo. I am very happy that everything turned out so well.

    I so enjoyed your story of your Ben and of your manicure. Way to go!

  • At 10:20 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Liz here -- I was a little worried about you when I saw you hitting the Franzia,but you look so beautiful in the photo with Lovely Teresa -- I love the way the pink of her dress is reflected in your rosy cheeks -- kvetch away my dear, if it helps you enjoy.

    And I too loved the story of your first-ever manicure.

  • At 12:31 PM, Blogger Sky said…

    lucy you look lovely! you both do! sounds like a fabulous event and great fun.

    thanks for sharing the memories. the rich moments in our past make it possible to relive so many joys. ben(jamin) must have been a popular mother's brother, my father's grandfather, cousin, and uncle - all named ben!

  • At 2:35 PM, Blogger Rain said…

    great picture. I like your blog. You have a wry sense of humor and a great spirit

  • At 3:02 PM, Blogger GUYK said…

    Miss Lucy-My poppa had a couple of kids and didn't get drafted until 1945 and the war was over before he ever had to report. And, he worked in the oil fields on driling rigs and I reckon that was considered war essential.

  • At 5:57 PM, Anonymous Hsien Lei said…

    Lucy, you both look beautiful! Thanks for sharing a part of history with us. :)

  • At 6:26 PM, Anonymous Maria said…

    Two such beautiful women at two different times in their lives. As soon as I got back home from the Bay Area, I looked in to see how the shower went. Sounded wonderful, but the worry helped. Honest it did!

  • At 8:30 PM, Blogger kenju said…

    Lucy, thanks so much for the kind and supportive comments you left me tonight. I think we are very much alike - and for that - I am grateful.

  • At 8:30 PM, Blogger OldOldLady Of The Hills said…

    I read your comment on JustAskJudy and I just had to come and visit you! God Bless are so filled with life and enthusiasm and spirit....How truly wonderful...So glad I stopped by here to visit.

  • At 6:34 AM, Blogger Suzann said…

    Darling Lucy - you are so lovely - what a great picture. Memories are so precious - this hangs on my wall:

    "We never really grow it seems, we keep in our hearts our fancies and dreams and in a corner all tucked away, is the child we all were yesterday."

    Thank you for sharing yourself and your today's and your yesterdays with us. Love, Suzann

  • At 5:54 PM, Blogger Cowtown Pattie said…

    Ms. Lucy, that was just the best story! I can just see you on that train and glancing down at your nicely manicured hands.

  • At 7:42 PM, Blogger Mildred Garfield said…

    The photo of the two of you is just beautiful! Two lovely ladies.

    Glad the shower was a huge success. When my son was still living at home and would have a cook-out for his friends I too was concerned about having enough chairs.

    When the young people came to the cook-out none of them wanted to sit down, they had to mingle.
    As the years went by, they got older, got married, had kids, THEN they wanted to sit down.

    BTW, when I worked, it was for a woman's hosiery company in Boston. You for a men's hosiery company.

    Loved your story.

  • At 8:43 AM, Blogger riceandsoup said…

    Hi Lucy!

    Finally dropped by your blog to have a look. Love your posts. And both you and Teresa look beautiful in the picture. :)

  • At 6:14 PM, Blogger Bev Sykes said…

    That is a beautiful photo. I'm so that that it all went well.

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