Golden Lucy's Spiral Journal

Going on 87...Savoring and Surviving the Senior Years

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Joy and Sorrow


My dear blogger friends---whom I follow and think of so very, very often:

I've suffered from grievous guilt at not posting for nearly three months. This truly has been a time that illustrates my conviction that a well-lived life is a balance of joy and sorrow---and perhaps there's a message for my peers. Our lives are never ever-so-wonderful or decidedly devastating as we fear or hope them to be. Reality, for those of us who struggle until we die is to love life, which is a strange and wonderful amalgam.

During the past three months we've had 2 unexpected (and traumatic) deaths in our immediate family, Both required a commitment of emotional, physical and financial resources. Our family accepts that sorrow as appropriate and good---though at times beyond comprehension.

Also good, viewed in 20-20 hindsight is the celebration of a new family beginning; a more painfully honest, more inclusive, more accepting way of moving forward. Our loved ones have left us and would most certainly want us to embrace new promise. I find this most uncomfortable...but necessary. Should I thank G-D I can still look forward...for the sake of my children and theirs...though I feel comfy only looking backwards.

But here is the joy, the hope and the reconciliation and new life that came together 2 weeks ago at my grandson's wedding. At our house, my son officiating, with our mishpocha, and with my all hopes and blessings for joy. All the best joy and love to you all.

22 Comments:

  • At 7:12 PM, Blogger Ann (bunnygirl) said…

    I'm sorry to hear about your recent losses, Lucy. By loving, we make ourselves vulnerable to pain. It's in the "fine print" of the bargain we buy into. But the alternative of living without love is so much worse that we accept the fragility of it and go forward.

    Peace to you and yours.

     
  • At 5:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Lucy, every time I drop by your vibrant personhood is a delight. As one of your "younger" followers, approaching 75, your thinking is very reassuring. Thanks for being there. -naomi

     
  • At 12:10 PM, Blogger Chancy said…

    Lucy
    I am so relieved that you are OK. I was concerned when you did not post for so long. Sorry about your losses but happy about your grandson's joyfull wedding.

    Chancy :)

     
  • At 4:51 PM, Blogger Miss Cellania said…

    Its so good to see you posting, Lucy, although I'm so sorry about your losses.

    (((hugs)))

     
  • At 7:56 AM, Blogger Joy Des Jardins said…

    I've been worried about you Lucy...not seeing you post in quite some time. So, I am relieved to see your post here today. I am sorry, however, to hear of the losses in your family. I hope you and your family are okay. Sending you much love sweet lady..... ~Joy

     
  • At 8:51 PM, Blogger kenju said…

    I have been wonderfing why you weren't posting, Lucy, so I am relieved to know that you are okay, except for your recent losses.

     
  • At 6:16 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I confess I don't visit every day or two but reading your post this morning was like an echo of mine at Mommascorner. Not so much the deaths but the feeling of losing something so precious to you that you won't survive without it. Lucy we are all feeling that way at this time of life but if you keep calling out some of us will hear you and try to fill the void with words of caring for you.

     
  • At 8:33 AM, Blogger Kay Dennison said…

    I'm swo glad to see that you are okay -- I was worried! I have you and your loved ones in my prayers! And Mazel tov on the nupials of your grandson!!!
    Hugssssssssss

     
  • At 4:15 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    It is good to see you back. Thank you for sharing your sorrows and joys with us.
    Cop Car

     
  • At 11:08 PM, Blogger joared said…

    Regret you've had sadness enter your family life, but glad you're able to experience the happiness the meshing of new lives brings. We know this life cycle is to be expected, but our adjusting can sometimes be difficult.

    Am glad you're well.

     
  • At 6:43 PM, Blogger Maria said…

    Life is filled with both sorrow and joy and like a roller coaster ride there are bumpy and uncomfortable times and also those really thrilling moments. I guess we just keep riding along hoping that it doesn't end too soon.

    You have all the wisdom that comes from living a long life. I love to stop in and read your posts.

     
  • At 7:29 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I am so sorry to hear of your recent losses Lucy. To lose someone you love is never easy. The time is never right. Yet.. as you say.. it is all somehow part of the greater plan. I am so happy that there are also new beginnings and joys in your days.

     
  • At 8:53 PM, Blogger Suzann said…

    Dearest Lucy - I so happy to see your new posts - I think of you so often. I am sorry for the recent losses in your family. The pictures of you and your grandson are absolutely stunning. I send my love across the miles. Suzann

     
  • At 6:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Good to see you! I've been pretty bad at posting and visiting people lately, but it's good to see you. Sorry for your losses but happy to see that your grandson has married and that you loved the wedding
    Love
    Claude

     
  • At 6:36 PM, Blogger Rain Trueax said…

    Sorry to hear about your losses but I am glad to hear there is joy also. Your wedding photos look beautiful and no professional could take any more love-filled

     
  • At 12:16 PM, Blogger millie garfield said…

    Hi Lucy

    Dropping by to thank you for your birthday wishes. Hope all is well with you and will be able to "put something up" so we'll know you are your usual spunky self.

    Hugs to you,
    Millie

     
  • At 8:19 AM, Blogger Kay Dennison said…

    Lucy? I am worried about you! I pray that all is well and you're just busy! I miss you!

     
  • At 1:57 PM, Blogger Mortart said…

    Glad to see you back blogging. My condolences for your losses. But mazel tov on your grandson's wedding.

     
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